Breathe

Non sempre potrai fidarti di tutti nella vita, un po’ l’hai già capito. Ci sono persone che godono nel veder soffrire gli altri, come se si nutrissero del loro dispiacere, e lo alimentano, lo provocano, lo cercano. È successo così anche con l’amica della tua amica. Una bambina che conosci di striscio perché frequenta un’altra sezione e alla quale mai ti saresti sognata di far qualcosa di male. Non ha avuto la stessa premura lei per te e, dopo aver passato un pomeriggio a giocare insieme, probabilmente osservando il tuo sguardo timido, le tue parole posate e controllate, i tuoi gesti che non fanno rumore, ha pensato bene di andar a parlar male di te in giro il giorno dopo. Te lo ha detto Silvia, che è una tua amica fidata. Ti ha detto che le aveva raccontato che sei antipatica e sei antipatica anche a Paoletta, che è stato il tramite che vi ha fatto incontrare.
Ti è allora crollato il mondo addosso e mi hai dato un’altra di quelle lezioni di maturità che tiri fuori quando meno me l’aspetto. Ti sei tormentata una notte intera a chiederti e chiedermi se davvero Paoletta potesse pensare di te questo e il mattino dopo appena siete rimaste solo glielo hai chiesto. Bam! Schietto e diretto. Lei ti ha risposto che no, non le stai antipatica. Come puoi pensarlo? Vi siete date un abbraccio (questo non so se sia successo ma voglio immaginarmelo così), e siete tornate con gli altri.

Quando me lo hai raccontato ti ho detto che eri stata brava e che molte persone non sono capaci di farlo. Si accontentano della prima versione che trovano dei fatti, la incartano se la ficcano in tasca e se la tengono per sempre lì, mutando atteggiamenti, espressioni, consuetudini che hanno nei confronti degli altri.
Chissà, ho pensato senza dirti, forse facevo la stessa cosa anch’io quando avevo più o meno la tua età e poi ancora dopo, quando ero più grande, andavo alle medie, iniziavo il liceo.

Ero timido, introverso, spigoloso. Ma volevo, lo volevo davvero, fare amicizia con gli altri. Alcuni di loro erano divertenti e simpatici. Passavamo del tempo insieme, c’era pure una specie di legame. Eppure arrivava sempre qualcuno che mi allontanava o dal quale mi facevo allontanare. Invidiosi o prepotenti, mettevano le loro risate tra me e gli altri, le loro battute ironiche, il sarcasmo spicciolo che può avere un bambino che difende il proprio territorio. E io me ne andavo. Ritornavo dentro la mia tana di solitudine e tristezza, a guardare il mondo che scorreva fuori dalla finestra della mia stanza. Ero solo, dentro e fuori. E disegnavo confini e limiti dentro i quali non mi era permesso spostarmi o allontanarmi, dirazzare. E quelle linee tratteggiate aumentavano ogni giorno d’intensità e volume e io finivo per essere il segnaposto di Google, perennemente inchiodato al perimetro di una stanza.

Quanto sarebbe stato facile, far quello che hai fatto tu. Andare incontro alla paura e chiedere: è vero? Sono io il problema? Ma che lo fossi o no, il problema non si muoveva dal posto che gli avevo dato.

Una volta uno dei bambini simpatici mi disse “gli altri dicono che tu sei uno spione perché ci guardi sempre dalla finestra”. Lo disse senza cattiveria, col tono di chi non crede a ciò che dice. Non seppi cosa rispondere. Mi allontanai e piazzai un nuovo confine tra me e un’altra persona. Quella stessa sera, sentivo le loro voci che chiacchieravano nella panchina sotto la mia finestra. Mi sforzai con tutte le forza che avevo di rimanere sotto le lenzuola e resistere alla tentazione di alzarmi e guardare. Ma li sentivo parlare e parlavano anche di me. È probabile che piansi o covai vendetta e violenza. Qualunque cosa feci, rimase sotto le lenzuola quella sera e tutte quelle che seguirono. Non fui mai capace di integrarmi in quel gruppo che finì per essere il gruppo degli altri. Persi anche le poche amicizie che avevo iniziato e forse anche per questo quando a 19 anni partii per venire qui all’università, sentii che non era solo l’inizio della mia vita da adulto. In qualche modo, era un inizio assoluto.

Puoi passare la vita intera a nasconderti ma prima o poi ciò che fuggi ti troverà. E quello che fuggi non è quasi mai ciò che pensi. Io scappavo dagli altri ma in realtà scappavo da me. Ci ho messo quasi 20 anni per capirlo e oggi che ne ho il doppio ho capito che la vita è più semplice di quanto ce la possiamo ingarbugliare. Spesso vediamo muri davanti a noi, ma se ti avvicini – come hai fatto tu – scopri che quel muro è un foglio di carta che se soffi si stende su un lato e ti lascia respirare.  

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